On the edge
Of a know-nothin' town
Feelin' quite superior
The aged come
To the sky above
He just ain't nothin'
But he's got a great view...
Can't touch the bottom
In too deep
~ Pearl Jam ~ Deep ~
Have you ever been told you are “too sensitive”? Have you ever heard someone equate your feelings to an ocean of emotions? I have ... many times, along with “you take things too personally are are too emotional”. And even though I use to think of it as a flaw, now I know it is an advantage.
Deep feelings, straddled between the area of conscious and subconscious. Think of them as emotional residue coming up at any time and affecting you, your thoughts, your judgement, and your relationships. Often we are unaware how our emotional residue impacts our thoughts, decisions and behaviours.
You see many of our poor reactions to situations, circumstances and communications stem from the deep areas within us that we are not necessarily consciously aware of. And it is the emotions down deep that we don’t see ... that hinder us the most and effect how we treat others.
In my past, I had the tendency to think that things were not going to get better because I had memories, associated feelings and thoughts that said things are just not going to work out. I would feel as if what was happening is just more of the same old ways, and that would give me the same old outcomes as they always had. My past memories contributed to my feelings of defeat and doubt before anything had happened ... because I didn’t see the bubble ... those old feelings that came up in the midst of my opportunity.
Prepared to deal with it, I started to uncover the underlying deep feelings of hurt. For a long time, it was buried down deep and I wanted to leave it there. Yet similar to a bubble that comes up to the surface of the water, I needed to recognize and understand the source of the feeling before I let it burst.
Now I use my "advantageous flaw" and look at where those feelings come from, why those feelings are still there, and then how I can let them go. I recognize they come from some area of disappointment where something didn’t work out the way I had hoped for. For me, I now realize that no matter how screwed over I feel, life is not a broken record playing the same outcome every time ... it’s only my feelings and associated thoughts that are playing that repeated outcome.
True healing comes at the source or root of the pain. And for me, I am willing to open up to my personal constraints with humility. Deep feelings of hurt are within us, whether you see them or not ... yet how they are affecting you is for you and your honest self to deal.