Meet me in the crowd
Throw your love around
Love me love me ...
Everyone around love them, love them
Put it in your hands
Take it take it
There's no time to cry
Put it in your heart
Where tomorrow shines
~ REM ~ Shiny Happy People ~
What comes to mind when you think of the word “reinvention”? New beginnings or to remake or redo completely? For me, a major transition is the perfect opportunity for reinvention. Reinvention allows me to move totally out of what I am known for into something I have always wanted to do. Kind of like a life makeover if you will.
Most of us identify with “reinvention” when we are unhappy with our current situation. It takes place for variety of reasons, some in our control, but most out of our control. Yet, it is actually a fairly simple idea.
Fundamentally, most of us don’t change behaviours that are difficult to change. We change the easy, superficial ones. But that is okay, because these can lead to drastic transformations.
Personally, I have witnessed this type of easy reboot. Watching others wipe the slate clean in a new social content. Adopting new behaviours that they were always capable of but couldn't in the previous social context because they felt trapped in a given social identity. Trapped because of created expectations and beliefs. Some believe that our social lives are governed externally, not internally ... that our change will only be successful if our friends, enemies and acquaintances buy in. And even if they genuinely want to support us they may struggle ... because our social lives are based on the fiction that people are constants rather than changing entities. Once this belief is disturbed, instability is perceived. But accept that as you transform, only some will support your journey. For the others, let them and the resentment go.
Reinvention is a renaissance; it’s not just buying new clothes and getting a new hairstyle, it’s a re-birth as a different person and it is never easy. And, whenever our lives modify – be it a new job, the end of a relationship, shifting base, or losing a love one – we have to alter accordingly to keep up with the changes. The key is to take control of the situation instead of letting the situation take over. Otherwise you may never reach your full potential and find yourself lost in the tides of time.
For me, reinventing myself means learning about myself ~ profound growth. What I do and how I do it is up to me, but I cannot forget to dream, to work hard to achieve my dreams, and to be open to discovering a wee bit more on my way there.
We can't go back and start a new beginning, but we can start today and make a new ending ॐ