Monday, January 9, 2012

" Cry ... "

Somebody shakes when the wind blows
Somebody's missing a friend, hold on
Somebody's lacking a hero
And they have not a clue
When it's all gonna end
You can change the world (I can't do it by myself)
You can touch the sky (Gonna take somebody's help)
You're the chosen one (I'm gonna need some kind of sign)
If we all cry at the same time tonight "
~ Michael Jackson ~ Cry ~
Somedays is it hard to stay positive, focused.  Somedays is it hard to stay strong, have faith and know your truth.  Somedays you just feel awful, question your path and just want to cry.  Yes, I have had those days ... and where do they come from, what were my triggers .... well, I have had someone tell me that my spirits are not as high as they use to be.  I have had someone tell me that I put on weight.  I have had someone tell me that I hope I finally decide to do the right thing.  I have had the realization that a close friendship of mine as changed.  Yes I have had a few of those days.  On the flip side, I have also had people tell me ... don’t be negative.  But sometimes it is just difficult.  And most of my blogs are about attitude, strength and courage.  Yet I have to realize that I am human, normal and I have the same fears and doubts that everyone else does.  And that is okay ... it is also okay to cry, and cry is exactly what I did ... 
The bright side is that there are a great deal of healing benefits of crying.  When we cry, we release negative emotions in a natural way for our bodies to cope with unwanted feelings of distress or fear.  Yet there are several other benefits to our mental and physical health.  
Crying can lower our stress levels by removing some chemicals and hormones that are built up, similar to sweating when exercising.  And the opposite can happen if we hold back tears ... we can increase our stress levels which as we know can lead to numerous other health issues.
Crying is an emotional response so when we shed tears, our endocrine system releases endorphins, or feel-good hormones, that stabilize the mood ... some may identify with “I just needed a good cry”.  When we cry, we give our bodies the ability to stabilize and become balanced again.  
“Tears are natural antibacterial and antiviral solutions that fight germs we get in our eyes.  The fluid lysozyme in tears is capable of killing up to 95% of all bacteria in a matter of minutes”.  So crying can help prevent you from getting sick.
Not all tears are the same.  Tears that are formed out of emotional distress or grief have more toxic byproducts in them than tears of irritation.  So emotional tears, made from stress, are capable of washing away wastes and toxins, therefore detoxifying our bodies.
Crying moisten our eyes and prevent dehydration of membranes surrounding our eyeballs.  We need tears as they enable us to see, they provide the lubrication we need for healthy eyesight.
Crying has calming effects such as slowing of breath.  During the cry, you may have increased heart rate and sweating, however the calming effects usually last longer afterwards ... therefore remembering the pleasant side of a “good cry”.  
So remember, it’s your party and you can cry if you want to .... as crying does open up our hearts ... providing a safe space for clarity and clearing ... giving allowance to practice forgiveness and self-forgiveness.  And an opportunity to bring our mind, body and soul back in balance.

“Don’t cry because it is over, smile because it happened “ Dr. Seuss


  1. Can I join your crying party...this week i feel like crying too, but the tears haven't come yet. Just when I thought I was making progress, I now have a new responsibility that will take all the energy i can muster. I will be caring for my 2 grandchildren (2 and 4) while my daughter fights in the hospital to hold onto to her baby. She is 20 weeks and the water bag broke. She may be in the hospital for 3 more months. The outcome of the baby is very bleak. They told us that the baby has such a low rate of surviving, its less than 1%. They also told us that she would be in full labor in the first 48 hours and she is at day 10. They don't know what to do for her other than monitor her. So they agreed to allow me to treat her with the Ondamed and so I have. And its helping, and they let me bring in food for her so she can have good organic food and raw juice. So I am thankful for that at least. I am envisioning a miracle for our new little one. I envision that for you too. And its ok to have negative days, you have a right to cry, this is hard, real hard sometimes. Remember, you're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.(winne the pooh). I miss our talks, hope to see you online soon. Love ya.

  2. Thanks so much for writing T, I miss our talks too and have been thinking of you and your family, knowing that this is a difficult time. You are in my daily prayers ... and you can definitely join my party, anytime ... and yes we are braver, stronger and smater ... thanks for the reminder. Sending you lots of healing love and light xx M