" ... and so you're talking to me today,
for hours on
i think of when your first spoke to me
and how far our friendships gone
the texts, the winks, the subtle things you said,
i'm glad we sorted out what's in your head, cause now i see
so keep your words and keep your problems
i've got enough of mine to solve them ... "
~ Bethan Mary Leadley ~ Keep Your Word ~
You keep your word and I’ll keep mine. Sounds pretty easy but doesn’t seem to apply. You say you’ll meet up and you don’t. You say you’ll call and you don’t. You say “we should really get together” and you don’t. Not so easy anymore is it … So what is it with being a flake? Now this definitely not a rant … not worth the energy to drum up anger and frustration because someone’s made you an option and not a priority. Yeah, it may seem direct, and a bit harsh … but it’s the truth. Because every time you make up an excuse to not do something without a reasonable explanation … you’re being a flake. And don’t worry, we’ve all been there, thankfully some of us have not only worked on this issue, but weeded out the necessary flakes in our lives so that it doesn’t rub off.
Let this one sit with you for a while before you decide to react … be honest with yourself. Because unless you are honest with you first, no one else with know the truth. And maybe you’ve outgrown a connection and hoping for it to fade away, it happens. But in the meantime, do not commit to what you cannot commit to. Period. Otherwise you’re lying. Period.
I think we can all agree that it is a pretty good idea to keep our word. And there are many benefits … you are instantly trusted, because sadly it is rare. You see, keeping your word means you are reliable and is the foundation for others to take risks on your behalf in the name of change. And with this trust brings comfort. A genuine feeling … plus keeping your word is one behaviour that earns you respect, instantly, and your reputation.
if you can’t keep your word,
you’re better off keeping your mouth shut.
So where does THIS all come from … a recent “lesson learned” …
Without airing dirty laundry, it is about time to hold others accountable for their actions. But remember, you may lose that connection in the process as it may be considered rude. So you decide. Are you willing to put up with being treated like plan B, or do you know your worth?
The last few days I experienced some interesting interactions, insights and for lack of a better word, awakenings … as if epiphanies were popping up all over the place. It is what you do NOW, matters with consequences to your actions.
So the next time you wonder why you can’t seem to count on others …
look within and answer if you can count on yourself, first.