Don't you look at me so smug
And say I'm going bad
Who are you to judge me
And the life that I live?
I know that I'm not perfect
And that I don't claim to be
So before you point your fingers
Be sure your hands are clean
Before you judge yourself
If you're not ready for judgement-Whoa oh oh!
~ Bob Marley ~ Judge Not ~
We all do it. Every one of us. We tell ourselves that we don’t want to and maybe we don’t really mean to. But we do. We judge people ... especially when someone keeps on doing the same annoying thing day after day. We point out their faults and therefore judge.
To promise we won’t, In practice, it is easier said than done, yet if we honestly monitor our minds, we realize how difficult or even impossible it may be to judge nothing that occurs.
So what is it about judging that makes it so hard to let go of?
Considering that to judge, drains our energy, is debilitating and makes us tired ... why do we feel compelled to pronounce our judgement and correct the errors of the world around us?
Perhaps conflict and judgement are connected, and our conflict with authority is the source of all our judgements. First, consider the authority figures in our lives ... boss, parents, teachers, etc ... then determine how we feel about them. If they express an opinion that affects us and carries some weight with us, they can be considered an authority figure. And depending on if we respect, fear, admire, resist or resent them, directly affects how much we value their opinion.
Oh and of course, we inadvertently learn from them too. If their opinion matters, when they judge us, we judge us. Then we issue our proclamation, and determine the true nature of reality ...
but is reality truly up to us?
So we continue the cycle and ultimately we judge others because we want to. It establishes us as superior and validates our independent authority. Just as previously done to us. Basically, it builds up our ego by allowing us to perceive differences. Allowing us to maintain our place as the ultimate authority. We evaluate to justify our own autonomy and feel we must judge against all competitors. We play the judgement game ... but how is our rule better than others?
Instead, prior to judging, maybe we could ask ourselves “Am I choosing not to know him?”. Maybe we can chose to know the true worth of others instead of perceiving wrong in them.
Isn’t it our choice of judgement that causes our perception?
Realize that when you judge you are trying to be the author of reality. Judgement imprisons you by making you into something you are not. Striving for a peaceful existence, you can live this simply by knowing who you are ... the freedom of total acceptance just as you are, as you are in reality.