Showing posts with label basic need to be loved. Show all posts
Showing posts with label basic need to be loved. Show all posts

Tuesday, June 4, 2013

" Competition ... "


She's got no idea where you've been
No idea what you've been doin'
You've been living dangerous
You're trying to keep it just our secret ..

You better learn to be discreet
If you wanna keep it just our secret ...

Goodness I like this
It's risky business ...
That you never knew existed
You try to keep it secret
You can try and try to keep it ...

She's the competition ...

~ Dragnette ~ Competition ~
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We seem to be surrounded by competition in our life.  The addiction to the energetic reaction that you are beating or could beat another person within a specific activity.  

But does that apply to “healing” as well?  Sadly, yes, that is what I have experienced.  It doesn’t make sense, I didn’t think it was possible ... I thought it was about sharing and caring ... instead it was others judging according to how they think they are being judged ... “I know better, I know best” ... a far cry from a space of healing for me ... my journey, my judgement.

You see the basic principle as to why we compete is to experience what we believe is victory over another.  Yet, it is within you, in your mind, your ego that generates a response ... because there is no universal recognition blessing you with gratification.


Isn’t it really about the craving of recognition, 
love and acceptance?  
Aren’t we hoping to receive the gold stars 
that are handed out in life?


Sadly we when we crave something, we create an energy around us of desperation and neediness, pushing away the very thing that we crave.  I have learned to release all attachments to a particular outcome in order for the very thing to come into my life.

Now what if we don’t compete anymore?  Could we un-limit ourselves to activities that give us sufficient ground for competing.  Will we try things we have never done before simply because we will no longer be directed by the mind, telling us which activities to follow?  Perhaps there would be no more judgement of self because there is no right or wrong.  Perhaps all would be from the starting point of self-enjoyment and self-movement.

So why not fully express ourselves here in the physical reality, unconditionally and within this allow and support each other to do the same, so that there is no harm done in thought or deed towards ourselves and others?


For me, life is not a competition or race anymore.  You see when I can be sincerely excited about the accomplishments of my peers, I seem to find that my life goes more smoothly ... because when I feel that someone doesn’t deserve their happiness, or that I am more deserving, then I am operating from a place of false pride and ignorance.


My journey ... I believe that we all deserve happiness and we all define our life by our own criteria.  I believe we can choose our state of mind and it has nothing to do with outside events.  I believe we are in charge of our life, attitude and perception.  I believe life is good when you claim it good ... my judgement.



Thursday, February 14, 2013

" L.O.V.E. ..."


L - is for the way you look at me
O - is for the only one I see
V - is very, very, extraordinary
E - is even more than anyone that you adore can
LOVE is all that I can give to you
LOVE is more than just a game for two
Two in LOVE can make it
Take my heart and please don't break it
LOVE Was made for me and you!
LOVE Was made for me and you!
LOVE Was made for me and you!

~ Nat King Cole ~ L.O.V.E. ~
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Well it’s that time of year again ... Valentine’s Day.  And just in case you needed a reminder just walk into any retail outlet and you are bombarded with chocolate-covered somethings, stuff animals holding plastic hearts, and pink/red everything.  You can’t miss it .. from flowers to candies, teddy bears and balloons.

I remember the time when we were younger, we would give mini Valentine cards to our classmates with popular characters and cartoons, hoping that someone would Be Mine!  I remember counting how many cards I got, wishing it was more than the year before.  The basic need to be LOVED.

Today is more than just a day to “buy” something for our loved ones ... it is a day to express our gratitude for the people in our lives who are always there for us, the people who will always love us, unconditionally.  Partner, parents, siblings or friends.

But isn’t everyday Valentines Day if we are mindful to hold close to our hearts our loved ones?  In a moment everything can change so express your true feelings now.  Don’t wait.  

Every day that we are given on earth is one in which we can practice gratitude ... never take for granted that tomorrow is ours ... so remember we have 365 days to work with and the possibilities are endless ...


classic video featuring: NAT KING COLE L-O-V-E