Maybe I've forgotten
The name and the address
Of everyone I've ever known,
It's nothing I regret ...
I would like a place I can call my own
Have a conversation on the telephone
Wake up everyday, that would be a start
I would not complain 'bout my wounded heart ...
Just wait 'till tomorrow
I guess that's what they all say
Just before they fall apart...
~ New Order ~ Regret ~
We grow a lot when we are faced with our own mortality. We begin to reflect on the past with pride or regret. And that regret may have common themes that start to surface again and again.
How many dreams have gone unfulfilled? How many don’t have the courage to live a life true to self? How many don’t have the courage to express their true feelings?
When a loss occurs, we reflect on what we had. Until we are able to fill it with something or someone else. We think we have time and we rarely think we will run out of it. Yet it is very important to try to honour at least some of your dreams along the way.
By simplifying your lifestyle, making conscious choices and creating more space in your life you become more open to life rather than wishing you did more.
By expressing your feelings in a un-harmful way, you become who you are truly capable of becoming. Suppressing emotions manifest as a dis-ease or ill-ness in the body.
By giving relationships the time and effort they deserve, you realize the full benefits of the human connection. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.
“ ... it is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships ... “
By choosing happiness for you rather than comfort, familiarity or playing it safe. Fear of change can make you pretend to others, to yourself that you are content.
So whether it be a wake up call, an epiphany, a mid-life crisis or simply choosing to live the life you want, do it now ... your future self will thank-you for it.