"You know he got the cure
You know he went astray
He used to stay awake
To drive the dreams he had away
He wanted to believe
In the hands of love
He felt the healing
Healing hands of love
Like the stars shiny shiny
From above ...
The hands of love"
~ U2 ~ Exit ~
There is plenty of information out there on how to have an exit strategy for business. But what about an exit strategy, personally? And is does one exist ... always.
Things go wrong, not as planned, things are out of control, things are chaotic, things are unmanageable ... and whats our exit? We BLAME ... others so that we don’t take responsibility for what is, or ourselves and stew in the guilt and shame of what is.
But what if we just let what is be ... what is? Rather than blame, avoid, distort, or deny what is ... when we actually ACCEPT what is, we have a real chance. A real chance to find out ... why this is happening to me. The secret is out though ... it isn’t happening to you, it is happening through you. If you choose to believe, what occurs “out there”, actually occurs within first.
But it is uncomfortable, so we reach for something to soothe us, to take care of us, to take the pain away. And it keeps coming back. So rather than asking why this is happening to me, ask what am I to learn from this experience. Yeah, difficult in the midst of pain ... but possible. Many spiritual teachers have proven this very point.
The journey to enlightenment is the road with no exits ...
Life is full of duality ... black and white, sad and happy, night and day, evil and good ... and this duality is what creates gratitude for what is. We cannot experience one without the other. Hence if we applied our exit strategy every time we experience what we perceive as bad, then can we truly enjoy what we perceive as good? We don’t what conflict, we don’t want aggression ... we want peace, but yet again, one is described by the other ... duality.
Make friends with the uncomfortable pain you’ve been avoiding ...
Eventually, the more we begin to settle into these discomfort feelings, the more we realize the basic goodness that resides in all of us. We allow ourselves to sit with rage and sorrow because we know that peace and happiness are just as available to us ... it’s a choice, always.
We can learn to appreciate what is ... naturally. Being fearless means you are not afraid or need to flight ... it’s about letting the world touch your heart because you are willing to open up without resistance ... you are truly willing to experience life rather than looking for the nearest exit.