" Attached ... "

“ ... I've tried and tried again to let you go

Even though you're the only have I have in this world

If you leave, what do I do?

Now what do I do? ... 

Heaven, will you let it rain?

I want to hid my tears in the rain

Because I was attached, I was foolishly attached

And even to this day, I love you ... “

*** Brown Eyed Girl ~ Attached ~ 

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Practicing non-attachment can be liberating but it is yet another practice.  A practice when you learn to relate to your emotions differently ... understanding their impermanence.

Practicing non-attachment allows you to have the ability detangle from emotional states of aversion for the negative or wanting to extend the positive.  The emotions rise and dissolve.  There is perspective.

When you understand the true meaning of non-attachment expectations no longer rule your life ... and the emotions that arise, you have space for.  You relate to the world as it is rather than to your concepts about it.  And you are able to allow life to unfold without needing to control everything.  The sense of spaciousness and freedom felt brings a genuine contentment that starves in temporary experiences.  

And it is good to remember that non-attachment differs from detachment.  Detachment is unresponsive and removed from emotions.  Non-attachment allows us to feel the emotions but not become trapped by them.  Hence when we are non-attached, we still care but we no longer discriminate, feeling love for this person and aversion for another.  

“ ... Neither do we "detach from the body." 

We wisely realize it is not permanent 

and that it is not our true self. 

It is a temporary dwelling for this lifetime. 

But we still need to take care of it 

and treat it with respect as we try to find the balance 

between hedonism and asceticism ... “

So it really isn’t about just “letting go”, the usual cliche used in meditation and yoga classes.  Because detachment and non-attachment differ ... and when we think of letting go, we are programmed to believe that it is something to get rid of or throw out.  Rather than get rid of attachment, we can experience the non- attachment ... simply not holding on, not grasping ... ultimately, we experience PEACE.

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" Quest For Certainty ... "

This world's like a dream, it's not what it seems. 

You think it's solid but it fades instead. 

I know so far I've been looking real hard, 

and I'm trying to get a grip on reality. 

If there was a place where you didn't lie, cry, die, 

would you come with me? 

It's my quest, my quest for certainty. 

In an age that's plagued with absurdity. 

A quest I'll try my best, to manifest sincerity. 

What more do they want from me? 

~ Shelter ~ Quest For Certainty ~

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We have a need to be certain about what we know, what we do and what we say.  We feel that when we are certain about the world around us, we understand things, we can be in control, we can sustain our safety and we can predict what will happen.  And when predictions come true, we continue to be certain about what we know.  

But what if certainty is nothing but spin?  

When you don’t accept the proof of impermanence in life, you fear uncertainty.  Yet when you reflect and rise up to it, it can enhance your life.  Knowledge about impermanence can reveal many truths and lead to a fundamental understanding of the nature of the universe.  Our best teach is nature itself.  Nature shows us the impermanence of seasons.

So with all the uncertainty around us, how do we live a life without anxiety and dis-comfort?  By accepting what is ... accepting that all things change and are impermanent.  Once we free ourselves from grasping at the ungraspable, we free ourselves from destructive views of permanence, along with the false notion of security.  

The notion of letting go of what you think you will always have but always has a shelf life too.  Not a depressive thought but a motivating one ... to appreciate life as it is ... in this very moment.  Because this very moment will never happen the same way again.  Similar to a snowflake, different every time.

A structured period of time where learning is to occur ... A life lesson ... teaching us about impermanence ... bringing us closer to the truth ... and challenging our faith in the process ... this I know for certain.