" False Pretense ... "

All along you know you thought you got the best of me ...

I can't seem to understand it how you turned out to be so cold

You tried but were caught red handed, are you happy with your role? ...

It's sacrifice

False pretense you'll hurt again

Stop pretending to deny

False pretense you'll hurt again ...

So play the game until you run out

And play the game into my hand ...

Don't sweat it - it's set on false pretense ...

~ Red Jumpsuit Apparatus ~ False Pretense ~

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Today I thought I would address something that affects us all.  I thought I would address knowing the difference from behaviours that exhibit authenticity versus false pretense.  Why?  Well I think it is important to recognize key characteristics that undermine the whole concept of upholding ones integrity ... mainly because there are those that will push your personal boundaries and take advantage of your generosity and kindness ... only until they get what they need.

We have all encountered people who take on the “appearance” and perform the actions characteristic of a humble person but do not believe in being humble as a heart conditioned decision.  Perhaps a form of pretentiousness (hmmm ... pre-tense?), which is difficult to detect because they are fence-sitters that seem agreeable in the presence of an audience and yet in their heart they will do anything to get what they can get out of you.  They care more about their reputation than upholding their integrity because they lack moral standards and choose to be deceitful as a way of life. 

In the past I have written about the roles we play and the masks we wear, but those behaviours do not have the intention to operate on “how far can I go” and never think of the consequences of their actions.  Those behaviours are usually to cope, deal and manage ... and is completely based on the lack of self confidence, self worth and self love.  

Sadly, when a hypocrite gets detected, they are not necessarily sorry for their false actions, but sorry for being caught, because false humility is about preservation.  It’s all about keeping up appearances ... yet you know the saying “ you maybe able to fool a lot of people most of the time, but you can’t fool everyone ALL of the time.”

But there is a bright side ... 
These experiences are similar to stumbling blocks that try to keep those of us from achieving our dreams.  As we know, life is full of choices ... and this is a choice.  Simply by not entertaining those operating on false pretense, you will save yourself unnecessary pain and suffering.  The key is your intuition.  If it doesn’t feel right, find out why.  Remember you CAN live with an open heart and mind.

“A great deal of intelligence can be invested in ignorance when the need for illusion is deep.” 

~ Saul Bellow