Showing posts with label control within. Show all posts
Showing posts with label control within. Show all posts

Friday, November 28, 2014

" Shake It Off ... "

But I keep cruising, can't stop, won't stop moving
It's like I got this music in my body and it's gonna be alright
'Cause the players gonna play, play, play, play, play
And the haters gonna hate, hate, hate, hate, hate ... 

Heartbreakers gonna break, break, break, break, break
And the fakers gonna fake, fake, fake, fake, fake
Baby, I'm just gonna shake, shake, shake, shake, shake
I shake it off, I shake it off
I'll never miss a beat, I'm lightning on my feet
And that's what they don't see mmm, that's what they don't see mmm ... 

I, I shake it off, I shake it off

~ Taylor Swift ~ Shake It Off ~
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When you feel no need to defend your thoughts, opinions, or ideas, you can deal with life knowing that you are empowered, your faith is strong, and you are able to shake “it” off.  

Faith comes from our own ability to recognize the influence the world has around us actually comes from within us.  Rather than being driven to prove our place, we become confidant in our actions, behaviours and words.  So when life events occur, we tap into that place to manage, cope and deal.

The need to engage in confrontations or conflict, and trying to defend ourselves is no longer required.  We have confidence in the moment and secure with our personal power.  

We don’t feel the need to be right, or teach a lesson, or point out a mistake, or preach.  We learn that every one has their own journey full of successes and failures to experience.  We learn that we are in no position to judge, unless we open ourselves up to be judged.  We learn loving compassion and kindness for those that disagree with our point of view.  We find that people can have different opinions, but still respect one another.  And we learn that the we have very little control of an outcome.




For those whom don’t resonate with these ideas, subconsciously we all demonstrate faith, daily ... if we are blessed to live another day.  When catastrophes happen, we don’t fall apart, even if we think we may.  We are only as strong as we allow ourselves to be and what we believe will manifest ...

Personally, I started with developing a trustworthiness of the Universe.  I opened my mind and heart to the possibility of anything.  I detached myself from the outcome, and began to take notice along the way.  And I freed myself of others through forgiveness and listened to my heart’s deep desire.  I realized that no one is perfect and expecting myself and others to live up to a fictitious standard results in suffering.  

By living each day in a state of unshakable faith, it grows to support me when facing predicaments ... it is a practice, a practice of gratitude for what is and appreciation for whatever comes.  When you find yourself fully immersed in this space, faith is ... unshakable ... 


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Tuesday, January 21, 2014

" Personal … "

Please forgive me, if I can't forgive anymore
I guess I'm taking it personal
Life without you is better than life before
I guess I'm taking it personal

Listen, Listen to my head
Listen, And not to my heart
Listen, Feels like the end's about to start
Yeah, You think you're caught, you got anymore
I guess I'm taking it personal

~ Olly Murs ~ Personal ~
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Hands up ... how many of us take what people say and do personally, regardless if it has anything to do with us?  Think about it ... every time we interact with others, we have the choice to listen to, acknowledge, and let go of their words ... OR take what they are saying personally.

The question is why ... why do we take things personally?  Perhaps it is the result of perceiving a person’s actions or words as a slight ... you must be looking for a negative intention in an individual’s words or actions.  So is it lack of trust of an insecurity?



Nothing others do is because of you. 
What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, 
their own dream. 
When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, 
you won’t be the victim of needless suffering 
~ Miguel Ruiz



We get it ... life happens, things fall apart, relationships implode, people betray and we turn on ourselves.  We beat ourselves up, we ask how could not have seen it coming, we compare ourselves, and we ask ... what is it all for, I mean what is the point in putting so much effort into improving yourself if nothing ever changes?

Every moment, change is happening.  And we can’t control how other people respond to us, all we can control is our own response to them.  Improve yourself unconditionally, empower yourself and how others choose to respond is none of your business.  You don’t need their permission to make positive changes to yourself.  And realize that people are often stuck in their own scripts and stories.  Realise that the story they’ve created has nothing to do with you in reality.  It only exists inside their head.




My reality  

I can refuse to allow myself to be manipulated, by holding onto my own reality and not getting drawn into someone else’s story.  What people do and say has no bearing upon me and I know it is based on their own experiences, emotions and perceptions  



Shift your perspective and remember that you have everything you need already within you.  You are no longer trying to get something from outside of you, that you already have within you ... know that no matter what happens, you will always be loved and valued, and that you hold the key to that, no-one else