" All Would Envy … "

She was treated like a queen

Anything she ever wanted ...

And everyone expected soon

That she could ask him for the moon ...

Yes, all would envy

... She lived a life she'd only dreamed

The life was never what it seemed

To all her friends that she'd ignored

She denied she was bored ...

Who would envy?

~ Sting ~ All Would Envy ~ 

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There is an old East Indian saying, “Nazar Na Lag Jaaye”, loosely translated, 

“Don’t Get Effected With Any Bad Eyes” ... in other words ... ENVY.

At a time when it seems all are taking compassion, kindness and peace ... envy is so rampant.  Because if we are truly honest with ourselves, we are either envious of something or someone, or being envied … be careful, don't let your green show!

Envy is considered a negative feeling, coming from insecurity and a sense of loss or lack.  Amplified during times of economic and/or social crisis.  And envy doesn’t dissipate with time.  Because envy stems from greed.  Envy is wanting something belonging to another.  Feelings of inferiority, loneliness, distrust, suspicious, ill will, resentment, bitterness and anger rise.  Followed by shame and guilt.  All rolled up into a ball of stress, which is doesn’t do anyone any good.

So what can we do because there will always be someone prettier, thinner, smarter, funnier, oh and richer than you … no problem, this is the human experience!
Hooray, we are human!  

Humour aside, the first to remember is that just because you feel these emotions, doesn’t mean you are a bad person.  It is about taking accountability for yourself.  Realize that this is happening and YOU are letting it happen!  Yes YOU are the cause of your own suffering.  I know, it sucks, believe me, I had my epiphany a while back (thanks to my Guru!!) … It is about developing feelings of gratitude and appreciation for what you have rather than what you want.

True happiness is state of being, not a state of having.

Remember everyone has a story, a challenge, a dream, a journey.  Remember that your light will not shine brighter when blowing out someone elses.  It is about finding out their story ... why they do what they do, why they have what they have.  
Maybe it is even about finding out HOW and making it happen for yourself?

Personally, I am happy for the success of others, but it took work, to come from a place of darkness to a place of love.  I think that is why I continue to freely write and share what I can with whomever is interested even though I've been criticized, ridiculed, mocked, copied and ignored … And yes it is easy to want what another blogger or writer has, but I know that life isn’t meaningful because of what we have, it is meaningful because of who we are ... I know my happiness does not depend on how well known I am, rather about who I am, writing, sharing and serving others.

I choose to create good for myself 

by celebrating who I am and what I do for others

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" Words ... "

Smile an everlasting smile, a smile can bring you 

Near to me. 

Don't ever let me find you gone, cause that would 

Bring a tear to me. 

This world has lost it's glory, lets start a brand 

New story now, my love. 

Right now, there'll be no other time and I can show 

You how, my love. 

Talk in everlasting words, and dedicate them all to 

Me. 

And I will give you all my life, I'm here if you 

Should call to me. 

You think that I don't even mean, 

A single word I say. 

It's only words, and words are all I have, to take 

Your heart away

~ Bee Gees ~ Words ~

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Words can be powerful because they have a biochemical effect on the body.  As soon as a word is used, chemicals are produced within our systems.  So when we don’t choose our words consciously to describe our emotions, we have issues  because the words we attach to our experience become our experience.  Our mindset can be impacted by powerful words. 

Think about it ... how does it make you feel when you think, speak or hear certain words?  Do they encourage you or do they hold you back?  

Some think words have magical powers.  They can used to rapidly shift our senses of what is real for us.  Even the order in how you use words can re-create the situation and change your perceptions.  I have heard change your words, change your life.  

I know for me there are certain words that trigger responses.  It is the association that creates a feeling.  I am aware of it, so now I also try to substitute with something else ... another experience.  And as hard as that is, I purposely remove the association of something that causes me grief and replace it with something better. 

You can even try to take a word and start to play with it and see what happens.  This is an application within something called “transderivational morphology”.  By adding prefixes or suffixes you start to shift your internal response to words that constrain or limit you.  Even replacing words can do this ... like replacing but for and.

And there is remedy in words.  Mind over matter ... deliberate focus of your mind over a situation can guide your thoughts and body into feelings of peace and tranquility.  We receive messages into our subconscious and conscious minds and they make all the difference in our well-being journey.  Really ask yourself what words are being used, what are the messages you are being told and what are you paying attention to?

I feel words need to be intentionally positive, comforting, compassionate to help guide us all in the way we want to feel.  I hope to live on purpose and manifest my words into the reality I want ...